I don’t normally attribute love thursday to a single person but today I want to shout out my love for my mom. It’s her birthday on Friday and she specifically requested no gifts so rather than a material gift I am sending her my love thursday written gift.
My mom is great. Sure, I know what you are thinking “but isn’t every mom great? don’t we all say that our mom’s are great?” Yeah, we do but I really think my mom is la creme-de-la-creme. My friend Laura often points out that my mom did something right in raising my sister and I which makes me wonder if we were left to our own devices, I wonder what she thinks we would have turned out like- hehe. I have friends who often ask me “what would Cindy say to this?” or “can I email your mom for advice?” She is one of the strongest and most value oriented women I know. At the end of emails she writes “make today a day of equality and responsibility”.
As the years go by I find that I am bridging that gap, with my mom, of mother-daughter to friend. I still seek her advice and wonder (often) what-would-mom-think and have been known to call in a state of panic seeking words of wisdom without even asking her how she is doing. And always, she listens.
I’m not going to lie to you and say that times with Mom are constantly Oprah Ah-ha moments. My sister and I sometimes joke that we grew up in the “school of hard knocks”. Mom doesn’t take sh$%. She hated it when we used to run in from outside and ask what was for dinner her frequent response was “hot rats on a stick”. When we were really young and we acted up in a restaurant or pub (good ole’ England), she would slightly squeeze our little arms and say “let’s go to the bathroom”. I can remember squirming in my seat, not because she was going to slap me around in the bathroom, but because it meant that we were going to have a “talk”- which involved my little butt on the counter and the look of stern disapproval coming from Mom. Trust me, the worst is to feel like you have disappointed a parent. But with these “no-nonsense” lessons, I learned manners, how to behave in front of adults (as I was growing up), the difference between right and wrong, and to be a head strong, independent woman.
Mom is a laugher. In fact we all are, but my mom has taught me to laugh about pretty much everything. She has a great laugh and a great way of attracting people to her with her positive energy. My favorite moments with her are when she is laughing so hard she can barely breathe, head down, and face red. She is always quick to point out that you should be attracted to someone who makes you laugh and make sure that special person in your life continues to make you laugh (which, thankfully my dad does on a daily basis).
There are some phrases that will always stick with me words of wisdom,really. I remember one time in high school Mom said to me “remember, the best thing to be remembered for is your generosity”. I constantly have this at the back of my mind. Her generosity is always felt by many who cross her path.
So this love thursday is dedicated to my mom not only because tomorrow is her birthday, but because I don’t take the opportunity (enough) to articulate how wonderful she is in my life.